HOW CAN YOU MEND A BROKEN HEART?

How quickly you recover from a breakup lies in your hands – you can go around in circles, self torturing, blaming offers and defeated, or you can embrace the opportunities the breakup presents.

Relationships end for various reasons and regardless of who did what, the first step is to accept that the relationship is over.  Sitting in a place of blame, guilt, regret, rejection, and feeling sorry for yourself is not the answer!

When I get asked “How can you mend a broken heart?”,  my answer is, “rebuild the relationship you have with you first”. While we are focussing on the ex, on what they did or did not do, we are not asking ourselves what we did or did not do, or we are personalising their actions rather than seeing the situation from a realistic point of view.

Invest time and energy into healing, otherwise the road to breakup recovery can be very long and painful! There is no point shutting yourself off and pretending that you are okay, this will only come back to haunt you in future relationships. When we don’t allow the hurt, sadness and grief to be felt and understood then it normally presents itself in other ways, such as; an inability to connect with others, little passion for life, fear of intimacy and vulnerability, needy and desperate, lengthy depressive behaviour.

The sooner you reconnect with yourself and learn to understand your behaviours, thoughts and feelings, the sooner you will be able to:

a) Treat yourself with kindness and love
b) Heal and recover
c) Meet someone new and form a healthy loving relationship

The first point is imperative, especially if you feel that you have not been treated with love, kindness, acceptance, warmth, honesty, respect, then you need to know how to treat yourself with honesty, respect, kindness, love, etc…

Invest some time to find out more about you.  Rebuild the No.1 relationship you have so that EVERY relationship you have can prosper!